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4 REASONS WHY A BREAK IN RELATIONSHIP IS NECESSARY FOR YOU AND YOUR BOO

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Much as being in a relationship is the sweetest thing that can happen to us, still not all relationship that has a beautiful beginning end up that way. A break in a relationship is such a sad but necessary realization. There are so many factors that contribute to this and in other relationships there come times where partners want to end it all without any concrete stand to call it a quit, this is when partners spend less time together than before, but sometimes a  break in a relationship is essential to bring it back on a solid ground. These are five reasons why it’s so:

1.Time for reflections: 
When you have a break in your relationship, it grants you the time to cast your memory to when you went out with your friends and enjoyed some time with your family. When you read books or listen to music to unwind when you didn’t have to worry whether you partner called or not, and all the things you did when you weren’t in a relationship.

2. Weigh between before/after the relationship:
This is when you compare if it’s actually worthwhile to continue in the relationship or not. You’ll look at the times when you were not with anybody but yourself and your focus was to be happy and satisfied in life and when you were in the relationship, your thoughts were not only about yourself but also about your partner’s happiness.

3. Pick out the odds:
This is when you’re able to plan how you want to be treated in the relationship. What you could have done right and you never did. Find your strength and weakness in the relationship and figure out how you and your partner would have to continue the relationship as loving as it was from the onset.

4. Make new resolutions:
When there is a break, it doesn’t mean its over yet, it’s just a time for you to recap on your relationship and see where it will lead to, if you are to continue and also make changes if possible.

AUTHOR: TTDHOKU

SOCIAL MEDIA CAN WRECK RELATIONSHIPS! DON’T LET IT HAPPEN TO YOU

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 I was talking to Sarah aka “Priceless babe” as she’s popularly known and she was complaining bitterly about how Tunde her boyfriend of 5 yrs wouldn’t just write epistles about her on her birthday, even though he was all lovey and sweet with his comment on her page, she still wasn’t satisfied that he posted her picture on his page but didn’t write her an epistle and all the whats-not. “Surely if he loved me, he would shout it from the rooftops of the inter-webs” she said. This really got me wondering and thinking if she actually wants a show off or she wants a relationship.

Social media has become the biggest online city in the world and virtually everyone lives in that city from Facebook, twitter, Instagram and even whatsapp. Regardless the age or profession you are active or averagely active on one of this platforms. In this online City you can be whoever you desire.

Social media over the years has been the beginning of some relationships as many men this days slides into DMs and ignite the spark from there, and a relationship is birthed, while this is happening though sadly many other relationships have come to their end as a result of many mishaps that occurs as a result of couples living their relationships for show while others compare their relationship with that of other couples on social media. Forgetting that some of this fairy tale relationships online are just make beliefs most time. Remember you can be anything you want in this city.

“Surely if he loved me, he would shout it from the rooftops of the interwebs.”

I’ve envied the relationships I’ve seen online—you know, the really sentimental ones, where partners write long, heartfelt statuses about each other. But in reality, the couples who write those gushingly romantic posts might be, at best, trying to make up after a bad fight or construct a reality that portrays their desired relationship, rather than their real one. At worst, they might be victims of territorial controlling partners.

A good amount of tech-related conflicts happen in relationships: 42 percent report being distracted by their phones, 18 percent argue about the amount of time spent online, and 8 percent have conflicts due to what a partner does online.

My candid advice for couples is never to compare their lives with others. Don’t live for the gram (Instagram) and pay attention to the realities of your relationship rather than juxtapose it with others especially on social media. Give your partner optimum attention when you are together, forget about the online city for a bit and give room for interaction and communication.  

AUTHOR: KMODE

WHY YOUR WOMAN DON’T REACH ORGASM DURING SEX!

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ORGASM!……UM…. DON’T BE SHY. YES YOU!

Sex is a pleasurable activity as well as a connecting one. Some people engage just for fun and pleasure but each time you have sex, you give a bit of yourself and take a little bit of the person. Like it or not, this connectivity makes sex a commitment. It is reported that most men have more orgasms than women on a normal sex day. Men release faster than women and sometimes the man goes limp leaving the woman with no orgasm due to the time space.
The art of sex can be much fun and can be frustrating as well. One can Ask, what am I doing or not doing right. Every man likes to have sex with a woman who enjoys it, screams his name and begs for more. If your woman doesn’t reach an orgasm every now and then, boy, you’re not doing something right.

ORAL SEX: Most young women are more likely than men to perform oral sex on their partner even if they don’t want to, according to researchers. Its always been a distasteful and big deal for men to perform oral sex on women. Men, please stop ignoring the clits, its needs some attention too and could help your woman in having orgasm.

NB: Ladies, please keep that cookie clean, fresh and smelling good so it can be properly “taken care of”

EXPERIMENT & SWITCH UP THINGS: Have fun and play. Allow your imaginations run wild during sex. Engage in a variety of sex acts.For example, vaginal sex plus oral sex would be linked to a higher likelihood of orgasm than either one of them alone. Explore all your body parts gainfully to achieve that earth shattering orgasm she deserves.

FIND HER G-SPOT: The G-Spot is an area of the female genitalia which is believed to possess a great amount of nerve endings that aid women to attain a stronger and longer orgasm. The location of the G-Spot varies in every woman. Tip for your quest; the G-Spot is mostly found inside the vagina and mostly surrounded by a rougher texture.

MAKE HER FEEL GOOD ABOUT HERSELF: A lot of women are insecure because some think they’re not good enough or don’t match up to a man’s standards. They’re thinking about how their face looks or what the fat on their belly is doing whether or not their cellulite is noticeable. If you need to make love to make her feel good about herself, take your time. Kiss every inch of her and make her feel she’s all you got. That way, she’ll  forget all her insecurities and allow her fantasies to come to play, then you can take her to her ecstasy and release.

TAKE YOUR TIME: This goes for both parties, it can take anywhere from a few minutes to mostly an hour to have an orgasm (20 minutes is typical, longer is totally normal). Orgasms are like childbirth: they take as long as they take, and each one is different. So just take your time and enjoy the upcoming pleasure.

AVOID DISTRACTIONS: Do not, I repeat do not be distracted by thoughts like, “What if this is taking too long?” or “What if my partner is bored?” or “What if I’m not even doing this right?” Just concentrate on pleasuring her and you will both have a wonderful and satisfying “joyful explosion”

 

NB:Mental exercises can sometimes work for men to delay their orgasm and so can firm pressure around the base of the penis. If premature ejaculation is a concern, you  may want to see a primary care doctor or urologist to find some techniques that might help.

BY PRISCA WOEDEM ABODAKPI (@_palmwine_)

12 ANNOYING THINGS WOMEN DO THAT MEN DISLIKE

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Annoying things women do……Dear ladies, embrace yourselves, because this one is coming for you. As you read though, treat the exposed information as counsel on how to be better but not to demean you. Ask yourself, would you put up with yourself if you were a man? So now, take a deep breath and read on to find out things that you do that make men want to disappear.
1. Expecting men to read your minds like they are some sort of psychics. Men aren’t very good mind readers. In fact, they often have difficulty just figuring out what women mean with the words they speak. They think women are far more sophisticated communicators than they are.

2. Stop over doing it with the makeup, keep it natural ladies. Men don’t want to lean in for a kiss and come out looking like a clown. Remember, foundation is supposed to be invisible and blend in with your skin. Keep the makeup on a minimal

3. Stop saying other girls bring ‘too much drama when you are the dramatic queen who loves to create a storm in a glass of water.

4. Stop saying you are fine when you’re obviously not. We aren’t in romantic movie, grow up and tell them what’s wrong or don’t get mad when they don’t take the hint.

5. Stop acting like it’s the duty of men to do all the work and take care of everything, get off that pretty butt and get something doing. Trust me men don’t like it when a girl thinks that he has to do all the work, drive every time to her, always buy her stuff, make her feel better but not giving anything in return. They are not money making machines and they go broke too, so sometimes you could split a bill or you could pay. After all what a man can do, a woman can do better right?

6. Let go of the past, a man easily gets annoyed when a woman cannot let go of the things long gone and keeps bringing it up to cause a fight.

7. Stop yelling and nagging ladies. No one wants to be told over and over again that they are doing something wrong.You have no idea how men get annoyed when they are  being shouted at, especially trying to solve a problem by arguing and yelling about it in front of everyone.

8. Stop emasculating them in front of their friends, it’s not appreciated.

9. Stop shaving off your eyebrows and then coloring them back on.

10. Taking forever to decide what to eat. Being indecisive, you’re a grown woman figure it out

11. Stop sending insane messages if they don’t respond to your texts immediately.
“3:00: hi
3:02: babe
3:03: are you there?
3:07: are you really ignoring me!
3: 14 are you with someone?
3:17: fine, enjoy
3: 19 it’s over between us!
3:22 babe I’m kidding….
3:24 just say something
3:30 [crying emoji]
Hey sorry busy at work whats up? 3:40
3:41 omg I’m sorry please forgive me

12. Stop using that silly Snapchat filter with the dog nose and tongue. Sweetheart, you don’t look cute.  *winkwink

Well, there you have it ladies but remember this information is intended to give insight into what men are thinking. Without straight and candid communication, we can’t solve the issues that threaten to end so many relationships.

WATCH OUT FOR OUR NEXT ARTICLE ON ANNOYING THINGS MEN DO THAT WOMEN DISLIKE .